Maintaining Friendships: How To Deal With Losing A Friend

We tend to handle friendships like relationships with our significant other’s. It takes time to nurture the relationship and you can do all you can to make them happy but there’s never any guarantee that it will stand the test of time. Sometimes friendships just don’t work out whether due to drama or you both just grew apart. Sure it sucks to lose a friend, especially if this is a friend that you’ve known for years, but life goes on. You’ll be ok! Losing a friend can be difficult to deal with but sometimes for the sake of your mental health it is absolutely necessary to cut ties with them. Today we will be taking a look at the different types of reasons we cut off friends and how to go about dealing with them.

You’ve Out Grown Them

As time goes by, there is a tendency for friendships tend to drift apart. This could be due to a variety of reasons such as scheduling conflicts or you both just have way too much going on in your lives. Things can change within a blink of an eye. You could end up having to move to a new city due to pursue your dream job or all of your focus now goes towards your growing family. With all the new, exciting things going on in your life, you slowly begin to realize that you may not have the time necessary to keep up with your friends and that’s ok! Never feel guilty or make your friend feel that way because with this type of fall out we have to keep in mind that life is unpredictable and these are things that are completely of your control. We all outgrow our friends in some point in our lives and this is just an unfortunate but normal fact of life. Sometimes it’s best to just love them from afar and only time will tell if you guys will rekindle that friendship you once had.

They Cause Too Much Drama

We’ve all dealt with that one friend who is just extra no reason. The traits of a true drama queen or king include:

  • Loud mouth
  • Can’t Keep A Secret For Nothing
  • Attention Seeker
  • Finds joy out of talking crap about people including you

If you know someone like this then I suggest you RUN! The actions of this person can be quite deceiving at first but they will slowly begin to reveal themselves as time goes by. When it comes to this type of friend definitely keep your distance. Throwing shade is what they tend to do and they also get joy out of being messy. Never trust this type of friend with your business because as soon as they get information out of you trust and believe they will open their mouths and make sure it spreads like wildfire to others around you. People like this are only worried about themselves and the reason why they act out is because they are truly miserable and have nothing better to do. They don’t care if they end up hurting you and “feed” off of people who they feel are weak and incapable of speaking up for themselves. Let this one go because you don’t need all of that drama and stress in your life. Trouble definitely follows them and will follow you too if you keep hanging out with them. With this type of friend it’s best to keep your conversations short and keep it moving!

They Constantly Disrespect You

If you have to ask yourself if this person is your friend or a bully, then that right there should tell you that they are not for you. A true friend will always there for you and will never do anything to hurt you. Words can be harmful but this type of friend tends to have a narcissistic personality so they could really care less about how you feel. The person was never your friend in the first place and they get joy out of being mean and causing you emotional distress. They act like this towards you because they are either jealous of you and they see being hurtful towards you as punishment. At the first sign of disrespect GET RID OF THEM! This friend will do nothing but drag you down and wants you to be just as miserable as they are. Don’t give this person the type of satisfaction that they are looking for by cowering in fear. This is why it is important to speak up for yourself and never let anyone talk to you any kind of way. There’s nothing to be scared of because you are just as big and bad as they are.

As we get older, good friends become harder to find and friendships become harder to maintain. We all have things going on in our lives and as we mature we begin to see people for who they really are. Losing a friend is not the end of the world and at times it is necessary to cut them off in order to keep the peace in your life. Friends will always come and go in your life and if it’s meant to be then they will stick by your side!

  One thought on “Maintaining Friendships: How To Deal With Losing A Friend

  1. March 16, 2020 at 10:19 am

    Yeah, it’s much better to be alone than be around negative people.

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  2. March 16, 2020 at 10:34 am

    Great post! I’ve cut ties with a toxic friend I’ve been communicating with for years and it felt like getting rid of a huge and terrible burden. It’s truly important to re-evaluate friendships and be decisive about maintaining positive people in your life. It’s extremely important to prioritize one’s own mental health and well-being, always, whatever the situation.

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    • March 16, 2020 at 10:40 am

      Thanks! You are definitely right about that! There’s been times when I felt that a friend was toxic as well and it was a huge relief to cut ties with them and just be done with them. They caused too much drama in my life that I did not need. 🙂

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  3. March 16, 2020 at 1:11 pm

    I love it!!!!! Such a great post! Hanging on to friends that are bad for us is so much worse for our overall health. Thank you for the insight!

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  4. March 17, 2020 at 7:53 pm

    This is a great post. I have had several friend culls over my lifetime. As we age we often outgrow people and freindships can turn stale over time. Our taste in literature and music may change over time and our taste in people can too.

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  5. April 7, 2020 at 12:38 am

    Absolutely! I’d rather be by myself than to be friends with someone who makes me feel bad and zaps the energy out of me. Life’s too short for that!

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  6. January 10, 2021 at 3:14 pm

    A long time ago, when I was upset about a friendship ending, someone told me the saying: people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Words that always help me see the light. 🙂

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    • January 10, 2021 at 5:01 pm

      That’s right! Those words of wisdom definitely have some truth behind them 😁


  7. January 10, 2021 at 3:23 pm

    Whew!! I really felt this. Thank you so much for sharing this. I too have experienced a lot of what you wrote. However I felt like in the end I didn’t lose because God replaced them with better.

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    • January 10, 2021 at 5:00 pm

      I agree! That’s how it always works in the the end. 😁


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