As a kid, I used to hear this phrase alot from my mom “not everyone you come across is your friend” and as an adult I realized this very quickly. Just like with relationships, people come and go in your life and that’s just something that we all need to accept. If someone is toxic and causing unnecessary drama in your life, the best thing to do is to let them go. Trust me, I know losing a friendship can be quite a melancholy time to go through, but in the end you will feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders and much happier. Why even be friends with someone who does nothing but bring you down?
Toxic Friend Traits to look out for
The “fake” friend: I absolutely can’t stand people like this. People will smile in your face, talk about you behind your back, and often times they are using you for something. Basically they are like a used car salesman trying to get information out of you to “sell” to someone else. Watch what you say around these type of people or don’t even hangout with them at all. They usually have a hidden agenda and will do anything to destroy you.
The “envious” friend: There’s nothing wrong with be a little jealous sometimes. Personally I think it’s a normal trait, however what’s not normal is your friend being jealous of you to the point where they hate you. Just like with fake people, they also usually have a hidden agenda and want what you have. You’ll know that they are envious because they’re compliments are often filled with hate and sarcasm.
The “always busy” friend: While yes, I know we are all adults and work can get in the way, I truly believe that if someone really wants to hangout with you, they will make time for you. With friendships like this, you may only see this person once every few months and they will text you out of nowhere. If there were truly your friend, they would try to reach out to you alot more often whether to check up on you and hangout with you. To me, this shows the person cares and is actually thinking of you. This type of friendship is a hot mess and will end very quickly. Just throw it away!
Now I’m not saying don’t trust everyone you come across, but be cautious. If you feel the friendship isn’t right or they start showing any of those toxic signs, you will know right there that they are not your friend. Don’t let anyone try to play you. You’re better than that and don’t need that type of energy in your life. 😊